I would like that we begin with some words of wisdom from the Bible with regards how we ought to live a respectful life here on earth. Reading from the book of 1 Thessalonians chapter 4 verses 11 and 12, “Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before. Then people who are not believers will respect the way you live, and you will not need to depend on others”.

With the statements above, here are a few tips on how to lead and live a life that condones no disrespect 📌

1. It’s best know your worth: One of the best ways to know your worth is by reading the Bible (Frankly speaking), get to know who you are through GOD’S eyes first and then through the knowledge of whom you’ve known yourself to be . It’s not enough to just assume who you are based off of what people say or have said about you, please be reminded that people barely know themselves and tend to speak off of the sense of fear, the need for attention or manipulation and finally people usually speak from a place of assumptions. When you get to know GOD then you get to know who you are and why you are here on earth, put in the work and don’t let the opinion of others determine how you feel about yourself .

2. Know the worth of others in your life : Now Sweetheart, THIS IS NECESSARY!!!. Learn to know where to place each person in your life, know where each person fits into your life and deal with them accordingly. The habit of treating acquaintances as friends, strangers as family or family as strangers should please come to an end, make it make sense. Observe how people act around you, how they treat you and how they behave. The Bible says "resist the devil and he will flee from you " (James 4:7) , treat everything and everyone with the spirit of discernment .

3. DO NOT GO where you are not invited : I personally do not go to where I am tolerated but rather I go to where I am celebrated and loved, not everything demands your presence and if an invitation wasn’t extended to you then please and please for the love of GOD and your self respect, DO NOT GO 🙂.

4. Be Honest : Being deceitful and dishonest is never a good look to be known for, people easily disregard and insult liars when they’ve observed it to be their true nature. Let your yes be yes and your no be a no 🙏 let your words mean something to people or at least someone, stop seeking validation through lies and deceit, it gets old.

5. Be a Respectful Person : Believe me when I say that being respectful actually opens alot of doors for you, you do not loose anything by being respectful regardless of what people might have said, a respectful person is the bigger person because he or she also attracts respect and admiration towards themselves.

6. Be a Giver and not a Taker : It’s best you come to the reality and the truth of the fact that takers are highly disrespected, this doesn’t connote that you give without reasoning but rather give from a place of gratitude, a place of contentment, a place of abundance, a place of appreciation and mostly a place of shared compassion. Please do well to also give to those who have in one way or another given to you, never assume that they have enough or that what you have to give isn’t what they may need, you will be surprised to know that the mere fact that you thought to give to them means everything to them.

7. Be Emotionally Intelligent : when people know that you are easily triggered, you become a puppet for show. Do not respond with your emotions to every situation that comes your way,do not familiarize yourself with your emotions on your sleeves because it’s never a good look at all. Let people be amazed by your reactions rather than anticipating your tantrums.

8. It’s OK to seek help and improve on yourself : You are in a world where knowing just one thing isn’t enough to keep you alive, it’s much more than having a college degree now, it’s either you have knowledge of various soft skills or years of experience in something else. Speak to people who have the desired knowledge that you seek. Visit that therapist, read, for the Bible says in all thy getting, get wisdom so as not to perish from the lack of it.

9. Speak less and Listen more : Proverbs 10:19 "In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise." Proverbs 11:14 "Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety." Move from the focus of wanting to sound interesting to people, the need for validation and attention attracts more lies from your mouth that you can ever imagine and that’s because your anxiety and desperation comes into play. A wise man once said "if you let people speak long enough, they reveal all you need". You’ve probably said too much in the past that made you mean less to people and yet you still let your mouth wonder, this is not to say that you don’t contribute to topics or issues that you’ve been invited or permitted to speak on but please limit your words, thoughts and ideas to yourself. If your limit is 100,000 words a day, how about you make it 30,000 words coming out from your mouth 🤐.

10. Seek First the Kingdom of GOD : if you’ve learnt nothing at all from all these tips, I humbly appeal to you that you at least ponder on this and look into it. In seeking the kingdom and Interest of GOD you encounter a GOD so kind and intentional about you, HE has declared that His thoughts towards you are of good and not of evil, to give you a future and an expected end (Jeremiah 29:11). HE sure hasn’t failed me and I know indeed that HE would never dissapoint you. 📌

Until next time dearest reader, Know You are Loved ❤

Special thanks goes to ADAEZE’S SPACE (YouTube) for the inspiration of this article.